Category Archives: Baby

Parenting Style: What Kind of Parent Are You?

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I recently had a text conversation with a friend who, despite our similarities in family size, is the polar opposite of myself.  Seriously.  However, I value our friendship and enjoy conversing because we can relate to each other on a strictly “more is better” philosophy. For me it’s fantastic to hear that she finds clothes still on the hanger in the dirty laundry and old apples under beds, and half drunk sodas (soda that was snuck, mind you) in dresser drawers.  Having a friend who can relate to the chaos and the choices and does not say, “Well you chose to have 11 kids” when I’m having a moment of weakness is such a blessing.  Having a friend who can put me in my place when I’m venting is invaluable.  And, having a friend who can offer solace when I am complaining about driving a “big ass” van is priceless.

But that is seriously where our similarities end.  We parent differently, our kids couldn’t be more different and what we see for them in the future is vastly different.  But this makes things interesting and sometimes, just sometimes, my perspective on things is altered.  You can almost always count on some sort of “disagreement” when we find time to chat.  And the other night was no different.  Both of us are solid in our parenting, we can’t be swayed and we know what we are doing is right for our family.  So last night when we were talking about  her kids the subject of  college came up.  Her family lives in FL and her oldest son applied to CU Boulder and was waiting for a response.  Kerry applied there, she was early accepted  and she is still trying to decide what it is that she wants to do.  For us that is a 4-hour distance, for them, it’s a 33-hour distance.  I off-handedly said I hope all our kids stay close, which started a conversation about hopes and dreams that our kids have for themselves and that which we have for them.   A lofty conversation for a text message, for sure, but we didn’t get too deep, primarily because I have self-inflicted ADD and forgot I was texting her in the middle of this conversation and partly because you can’t argue with either of us, we are typically right!  An admirable quality in a mom, for sure!

Sneak Preview: DayCare … Moms Must Stay Home and Dads Must Man Up

Poverty-level pay. Fifty-hour work weeks. High exposure to illnesses. No health insurance. No benefits. No sick days, No Personal Days, No Paid-Vacation Days. No bonus package, no retirement fund and No respect … No, I’m not talking about us stay at home moms, I’m describing the typical daycare providers work environment!

I’m old school, no-one can raise my children better than me because no-one cares more about them than I. No-one will be empathetic and place my baby’s needs ahead of the others in a daycare center. Your 6 week old’s cries are no more important than any of the other infants in the room. And with 4 babies and 2 “teachers” the odds are 50/50 that your precious child will be tended to immediately. They have other infants who need to be changed or fed. In daycare your child’s minimal needs are being met. They are changed and fed. They are not nurtured and adored, they are not the axis on which the world spins. This is not only the case of sheer numbers, but mostly because the adults aren’t invested in your child. You pay them what is socially acceptable, which is crap, and bemoan the cost at every turn. Obama wants to make childcare deductible up to $12k/yr while giving absolutely nothing to the mom’s who sacrifice a second income to love, nurture and raise their own children. Why? Because there is an entire movement brewing to entice women to give up their control and influence over their children to the state. Preschool now starts at 2, kids are farmed to all day kindergarten, all in the name of socialization. Wake Up!

I don’t want to hear the age old argument that you can’t afford to stay home, that your husband simply doesn’t make enough money to allow you that luxury. Listen ladies, Dan & I are living proof that any family can afford it if you get your priorities straight. We started out with nothing, absolutely nothing. Still today we are driving 11 year old vehicles, we don’t have the newest kitchen, or the most beautiful furnishings, but we have the best kids because we made them our priority. Let me tell you sisters, if your man is not making enough money to support his family, he is not a man, it’s that simple. You married a child, a boy and now your children will pay the price. But don’t come looking to us and our tax dollars to pay for your luxuries.

Seriously, if you can’t afford to pay the current pathetically low cost of daycare, then honey, your job just isn’t worth the time you spend away from your children. That may be hard to swallow. You may have spent what equals a lifetime in school getting your degree. Years. Maybe decades working your way up to your particular position. And now you are faced with some jobless nobody (moi) telling you to ditch all that hard work, that none of it was worth it. What’s more important? Your job? Your child? Which would you lay your life down for if necessary? …

Fly Like a G6

After Christmas Glow, Baptism, Feast of the Holy Family, Kerry Jams Out, and Dancing Fools.

Despicable Me, Home Alone & Drill Wielding Christmas Joy

Day Chock full of shopping, Dr’s and — Dan gets berated for his childish behavior at Targay, Elly’s back at the Dr, and Brody’s in charge of what?

Fish Hooks And Doctors…Oh My

The boys make fish hooks…the toilet overflows…and we are heading to the doctor.

Hanging Our Christmas Lights on the Roof

We patch our roof and hang our Christmas lights barely in time before nightfall and snow.

Our New Baby Comes Home from the Hospital

The kids all pitch in to help get things ready for Mommy and their new baby sister to come home from the hospital. Thank you all for the prayers and kind words.

Eleven Kids and More Birthdays

What do you get with a big family? Never-ending fun and more birthdays!!

Our Eleventh Baby Has Arrived

We are so blessed with the gift of our eleventh baby!! God truly is great.