Pope Benedict recently urged the Faithful to be wary of allowing cyber friends to replace real life friends. I had to sit up straight at that because, believe it or not, it is something I have to be cautious of. I have a horde of friends here in the real world that I adore, sure they drive me crazy at times, but I do adore them and they are surprisingly tolerant of my idiosyncracies. However, I have had the privilege of “meeting” so many people on YouTube from all over the globe who make it appear that their sole purpose in life is to leave me kind comments and say amazingly awesome things about me and my family … I mean, come on, that’s so hard to resist. People have gone so far as to make entire videos about my sheer awesomeness. My real friends have their own lives, their own children and sure, they are supportive and leave kind comments on my Facebook, but I am NOT their sole priority. And in reality, I’m not anyone’s on YouTube but the tempting aspect of YT is that you can begin to believe you are! That’s the beauty of YouTube. You can be made to feel as though you are priceless, irreplaceable, remarkable, gorgeous, amazing, and so much more. People tell you your life is so incredibly interesting that you should have a TV show. And while it does send a warm fuzzy feeling, it can go to your head, that is until your best friend from your childhood snaps you back to earth with the following comment, “Sure, Suzs, your shiit don’t stink!”
Fantastic. Wonderful. But it’s the truth. Youtube friends see the best of the best. They don’t see me at my worst when I’m screaming so loud I nearly faint, or when I’m traipsing through the grocery store in my pajamas and haven’t even brushed my teeth. They don’t see the kids beating each other or fighting or whatever other hot messes occur during the typical day. What got me to thinking even more was a PM I received from a mom who had 3 children and she was just at the breaking point. She couldn’t believe I was able to manage 11 kids and all our activities and still be happy and joyous. She was distraught at her “failure” as a mom. I stopped her in her tracks. Nothing you see on Youtube is real. Nothing you see on TV is real. Typically nothing you see in real life is real. Do not judge the inside of your family by the outside of another. I’ve been saying this for years, but it seemed extraordinarily poignant at this very moment. We do have a blast, we do have a penchant for the extreme, but we also befall your typical daily drones … we fight, we yell. In other words we fail too. We are only human, hence we are sinners.
Have a very blessed Holy Week and a Joyous Easter!! xoxoxox