Along with the Ivory-Billed Woodpecker and the Amur Leopard, there’s another endangered species nearing or having reached extinction: The Tough Guy. At some point in my 30+ years, men laid down their their brawler, their chin, for Dancing With the Stars. They are sensitive and compassionate now, instead of providers and protectors.
My opinion, we need more men with chin. Chin, in the boxing world, is a badass. Having chin means having the ability to absorb punches when you get hit with a big shot and stay standing, to remain on your feet despite seeing black flashing lights, blurred, double or triple vision and feeling a buzz that goes all the way to your toes. Some say you are either born with a good chin or not. Other say it’s a mental toughness that when your brain tells you to go down to the canvas you will yourself to stay on your feet.
I’ll say it again, the world needs men with chin.
But today, men are merely women who stand to pee. Sorry guys, there seems to be no distinction between the sexes. Everyone has become sensitive and in touch with their feelings. Nowadays, they post Facebook status’, venting. When I was growing up they placed punches. Guys thought The Terminator was cool, they watched Die Hard and Reservoir Dogs, not the Notebook. They didn’t drink red wine and champagne they drank Jack and Coke. It saddens and pretty much pisses me off to watch men continue on this downward spiral toward meekness, weakness and softness. I have six sons but, more importantly, I have 5 daughters who know what a real man is because they have brothers and a badass dad. They will never be satisfied with a male endowed, female wired husband. So, seeing as though everyone forgot what it takes to be a tough guy, I’ve taken the liberty of putting together a list of 6 steps to help mankind regain some of that old bravado that has long been forgotten. I urge you to read all the way through, I saved the best for last!
STEP ONE: Bulk Up
You gotta look the part before you act the part. Tough guys have muscles, they have muscles on their muscles. They look like they could beat the sh*& outta anyone and they carry themselves with confidence. Muscles show you care about your appearance and you value yourself. Most women love to feel like the guy they are with can protect them from any and all evil lurking out there. We also dig men who look good and make us feel small. In a world where we are obsessed with our weight, there would be nothing worse, or very little worse, than being heavier than your husband. Our self esteems are quite fragile. So men, this may seem very superficial, but just like you enjoy our taking special care to look good for you, women love their men to look good too.
STEP TWO: Own the Game Of Life:
Everyone gets beat down in life, it’s a fact. As said by Rick Seaman, graduate of the Naval Academy, “Mental toughness is the ability to persevere in pursuit of a goal, no matter how long it takes or how much pain is involved. It is the willpower needed to complete the mission regardless of obstacles.” It means no matter how relentless life is, no matter how horrid the people in your path are, you are a rock, you don’t falter, you don’t fall, you plow on through and you never ever complain … ever! Tough guys play hurt and the pain, unbeknownst to anyone else. They know that complaining is only for lesser people who crave attention. They know all to well that the respect that comes from enduring pain is a lot better than the sympathy you get from moaning about it. Complaining is a sign of weakness, it shows lack of character. Very few guys are mentally tough. They want us all to think they are tough so they will complain, but let you know they are not complaining. Being mentally stout enables you to break out of seemingly boring existences and into a realm unbeknownst to others. When you’re brain is brawny you are unencumbered by obstacles that would otherwise trash your very existence.
STEP THREE: Get some Rocky In Ya
Think Clint Eastwood — Dirty Harry, Walt Kowalski (Eastwood’s character in Gran Torino). Regardless who Eastwood is playing, the world is well aware that character can kick some ass. We know this by the way he acts, the way he carries himself and by the way he looks. Clint Eastwood is the toughest of the tough guys in Hollywood. Gun fights, bar fights, whatever the fight, he holds his own. Of course, I’m not suggesting you go out and look for a fight. Real tough guys, real men have nothing to prove. They know they have the cojones to do what it takes, they don’t need to constantly prove it to everyone else. Besides , a real man can distinguish which fights are worth fighting and which ones are petty. No one respects a man who can’t brush off a slew of insults or a minor altercation and flies. Flying into rages at every whim only proves lack of control. However, it’s equally hard to respect a man who doesn’t know when it’s time to flex. The important battles are the ones whose significance exceeds the actual confrontation. If a dude bumps into you, it’s not worth it. But if a guy bumps into your wife, hell yeah, you better act.
STEP FOUR: Be Crazy
Tough guys have tough hobbies. They are not shoppers, they don’t play the piano, knit or garden. Tough guys live on the edge, they take chances and they don’t fear fear. Tough guys ride motorcycles, they’re into extreme sports and they play rough. They are also warriors in everything they do. “A pint of sweat will save a gallon of blood,” so said Gen Patton. Tough guys don’t finish last. They bring a game face to every meet up. Fear is a daily occurence in their lives, but they don’t wear it on their sleeve, they crave it like raw meat and the amount of sheer fear in their day is the ruler on which they measure the success of the past 24 hours. Tough guys dabble in the crazy, always pushing the limits. They are visibly unfazed when the sh*@ hits the fan. Due to their crazy nature, everyday life doesn’t scare them. Which leads me to Step 5.
STEP FIVE: Take Care of Your Own
Due to the “Obama economy” Dan’s boss was forced to cut employee salaries and when Dan was called in to his boss’ office in October He wasn’t shaking, he wasn’t nervous. His pay was cut … by 20%. A lesser man would have quit. I would have quit. Today most “men” would be on the phone with their psychiatrists, bawling about being emasculated, their feelings of inadequacy and how scary a time this was for them. Dan’s thoughts were in a different direction, he has resolve, he has determination. He threw himself into a start-up business, SubSavvy. After months and months of 20/hr days, working 2 ful-time jobs and a 3rd, working part-time as a web developer, he’s ready to launch the first version. Tough guys don’t take a beating from anyone, not even plummeting economic forces. Tough guys use a tough situation to make things better. Tough guys are badass dads and role models for their kids. Tough guys are badass husbands who support their wives financially and emotionally so she can stay at home and raise their children. Tough guys teach their sons how to be tough guys and teach their daughter’s about what a real man is.
STEP SIX: Get a Grip
Tough guys live by a set of values and core beliefs. Tough guys know, love and serve God. They aren’t ashamed of this, they holler it from the rooftops, they preach it and they live it. They are tough enough to know that they aren’t tough without Him. The tough guys value honesty and integrity and they garner respect from holding these truths. Tough guys aren’t out there fighting the good fight for themselves, and they’ll defend their beliefs to the death. There are four types of people in the world. The first type, will like you no matter what you do. The second will like you, but can be persuaded to dislike you. The third, will despise you from the get-go. And the fourth will despise you, but can be persuaded to like you. Real men don’t worry about who likes them and who they must impress. Their only concern is living truth; for if you live truth, you fear nothing!